In an enlightening conversation with Rupinder K Sandhu, we delve into the inspiring life story of Kulpreet Brar. Host Rupinder K Sandhu introduces Kulpreet, highlighting her remarkable story featured on Humans of Bombay. Kulpreet's resilience in the face of losing her parents at a young age and taking on the responsibility of her family is emphasized, painting a picture of her strength and courage.
Kulpreet's story begins with the profound bond she shared with her brother, who was ten years older than her. She fondly recalls, "He raised me like a child." This age gap bestowed upon her brother a parental role, nurturing Kulpreet with a sense of security and love, evident in their shared moments in the fields and his protective embrace.
A tragic twist in Kulpreet's life occurred with her brother's untimely death, catapulting her into a pivotal family role. Kulpreet was on the brink of marriage when this tragedy struck. She found herself questioning the significance of her planned marriage in the face of such profound loss. In December 2016, Kulpreet faced a heart-wrenching ordeal. She was working in Chandigarh when she received the devastating news of her brother's accident. The subsequent eight days in ICU she watched over her brother, clinging to hope amidst despair.
She recalls telling him reassuringly that he would recover in time for her niece's birthday. However, this glimmer of hope was short-lived as her brother's condition worsened, leading to his passing.
At the time of my brother's passing, his son was 10 years old and his daughter was 6 years old, said Kulpreet.
Despite the overwhelming grief, Kulpreet found solace in her family's support. Her nephew's encouragement, "You are my father now, Bhua Ji," was a source of immense strength for her. This support system played a crucial role in her journey of overcoming grief and taking on new responsibilities.
The Dark Days of Depression and Isolation
Battling depression and the crushing weight of societal pressure, her days were clouded with sadness. The turning point came when she realized the importance of gratitude and friendship. She recounts, "I was sitting on the bench, crying all day." This emotional turmoil was compounded by her roommates' lack of understanding, leading them to complain about her to the warden.
During Kulpreet's challenging times, her family’s attachment and expectations intensified. She faced the daunting task of proving herself to her relatives, especially during weddings where cooperation was scarce. Kulpreet reflects, “You have to prove to people at one point.” This was a crucial stage in her life where she learned the importance of standing up for herself. Kulpreet's story took a dramatic turn when she realized the need to take charge of her life. "I stood up for myself," she declares, marking a significant shift in her journey.
In an environment where dependency was the norm, Kulpreet’s resolve to be self-reliant was revolutionary. She realized the importance of financial independence and self-care. “I felt like I had to earn money, I had to stand up,” she recalls.
The Challenge of Parenthood and Financial Independence
Kulpreet's resilience was further tested as she navigated the challenges of single parenthood and financial stability. Her brother's business, along with her HR job, became her primary source of income. She faced the complexities of managing finances and raising her brother's children single-handedly. The aftermath of her brother's accident brought legal and societal challenges. Kulpreet had to contend with a reopened case and societal judgments about her decision to prioritize her family over marriage. She stood firm in her choices, focusing on her children's education and well-being. Kulpreet's journey is marked by her role as a mother and a decision-maker.
She emphasizes the importance of being financially independent and making informed decisions for her family. She admits, "I tease my children. I will say, we got married, I will get it done at your expense." This sentiment reflects her deep commitment to her family's well-being, prioritizing their needs above all else.
Passion for Fitness: A Lifeline
Kulpreet's dedication to fitness is not just a hobby; it's a lifeline. Rising at 5:30 am for her fitness routine, she emphasizes the importance of self-care, especially for women. She believes in breaking oneself to rebuild stronger, a philosophy that resonates deeply with her life's challenges. Kulpreet juggles multiple roles with grace. She manages household responsibilities, her brother's children's education, and her fitness regime with admirable efficiency. Her routine is a blend of discipline and self-care, embodying her belief that fitness is integral to mental and physical well-being.
Kulpreet candidly shares her struggles with depression, particularly following her brother's demise. Finding solace in running and fitness, she transformed her grief into strength. Her journey highlights the therapeutic power of physical activity in healing and coping with life's hardest blows. The support from her running community played a crucial role in her recovery and growth. These connections, formed through shared passions, became her extended family, offering support and motivation.
Reflections on Marriage, Independence, and Decision-Making
Kulpreet's views on marriage and independence are thought-provoking. She believes in the power of decision-making, irrespective of marital status. Her experiences have taught her the importance of being mentally strong and opinionated, qualities she values in herself and others. Her belief that "ਵਿਆਹ ਤੋਂ ਵੀ ਜ਼ਰੂਰੀ ਮੇਰੇ ਲਈ ਮੇਰਾ ਪਰਿਵਾਰ ਸੀ" (For me, my family was more important than marriage) reflects her deep-rooted values. Balancing familial duties with personal growth, Kulpreet demonstrates the power of prioritizing one's well-being alongside family responsibilities.
Looking to the future, Kulpreet shares her aspirations, including learning to swim and participating in Iron Man competitions.
A Life Altered by Fitness and Marathon Running
- Running as Meditation: Since 2017, Kulpreet has been a dedicated member of the marathon community. For her, running is akin to meditation, offering peace and a sense of liberation.
- Accomplishments in Marathons: Kulpreet has participated in various half marathons (21kms), with significant achievements including podium finishes and escorting blind runner S. Amarjit Singh Chawla in multiple events.
- Diverse Fitness Interests: Her fitness regime extends beyond running to include yoga, cycling, gyming, and overall fitness, emphasizing the importance of a holistic approach to wellness.
- Introduction to Cycling: Post a foot injury, cycling was recommended for recovery, leading Kulpreet to discover her passion for long-distance endurance cycling.
- Brevet de Randonneurs Mondiaux (BRM) Participation: Kulpreet participated in BRM cycling events, covering distances up to 400 km. Her journey in these non-competitive, self-sufficient cycling events showcases her endurance and determination.
- Event Organizer: Successfully organized the Bathinda half marathon (1st and 2nd editions) themed "RUN TO FIGHT AGAINST CANCER" and the Walkathon 2023 for EYE Donation Awareness.
- Motivational Speaker: Passionate about sharing her experiences and inspiring others through motivational speeches.
- Certified Expertise: Kulpreet is a certified yoga instructor and sports nutritionist, combining her knowledge and passion to guide others.
Significant Achievements in Running and Cycling
- Marathon Participation: Kulpreet has been an active participant in over 20 official half-marathon events, with impressive times and podium finishes.
- Cycling BRM Achievements: Her accomplishments in BRM events include completing 200 km in 8 hrs 50 mins, 308 km in 12 hrs 57 mins, and 400 km in 17 hrs 46 mins. She notably embarked on a 600 km ride, illustrating her adventurous spirit.
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